With His Needs, Her Needs, 500,000 couples learned to build affair-proof marriages and bring romantic love back to their relationships. Now, bestselling author Willard Harley brings his keen insight into relationships and tested counsel to bear on the topic of marital compatibility. Most couples begin marriage blissfully compatible and deeply in love. But they usually don't stay that way. Why? In Give and Take you will find out why you and your spouse may have lost the compatibility you started with. Then Dr. Harley will show you how to restore it, making you not only compatible, but also as much in love with each other as you ever were. You will learn about your Giver and Taker (and about your spouse's Giver and Taker). You will learn how they can mess up your marriage, but also how to educate these characters and turn them into heroes. Dr. Harley will also introduce you to the "three states of marriage" that prevent couples from getting what they need most in marriage. But with Dr. Harley's help, you will learn to overcome their destructive influence. You will learn to give what your spouse needs most in marriage, and take what you need most in return. By learning to give and take fairly and effectively, you and your spouse can grow in love and compatibility.